do we need conflict?

[miriam_e]

I was thinking about the stories we tell ourselves and the fables we believe. It seems to me that conflict forms a central part of all of these. All the religious texts I've read worship psychopathic gods who seem obsessed with senseless destruction. All the top movies seem to center around conflict, often life-threatening. Books seem to be the same. It is weird... and somewhat depressing. What does that say about us as a species?

Even some of my favorite movies, Amelie, Little Man Tate, For The Birds, The Telephone, Romy & Michelle's High School Reunion, which don't have guns or direct violence, still use conflict as an important story element.

I love the Karin Kallmaker romances because they are lovely, light escapes, but even these generally feature a fair amount of conflict, with some of the later ones even tending to tragedy, and I find this upsetting.

A couple of years ago I tried to write a story that generally didn't have conflict. It was, by all accounts a resounding failure. I'm still largely proud of it, except the parts where I bowed to pressure and added conflict, and I'll fix that one day when I get time. Unfortunately when I do I just know nobody will read it, or if they do they won't like it because it will be too "nice". But that has me puzzled: how can being nice be a failure? What is it about us that lets us describe a tragedy as beautiful, or a violent action story as thrilling?

When was the last time you read a book or watched a movie that had no conflict at all?

What the hell is wrong with us?

Comments

[qu-is.livejournal.com]

True. There is plenty of research to suggest that the stories we see and read (and the news we see/hear/read) affect our perception of the world. And your right, surely, if we want to improve our happiness we should be reading and writing happier, more positive stories.

It's the old question of life imitating art or art imitating life.

I would be interested in reading stories that were happy - if they maintained an interesting plot. I'm just not sure how one would go about it. I often read stories without violence, but I've never come across one with out some sort of conflict that needs resolving. Thats the point - it's the plot. Who do you make a story go from A to B with out it?

Even a story of a child going to the beach for a day has conflict. Perhaps she finds a shell and wants to keep it, but is not allowed. She is upset, but comes to realise the reasons she is not allowed to keep it and instead draws an image of it. Happy ending, positive message about conservation. But the conflict in what the child wants and can't have is required to get the message across.

Let me know if you write any with out conflict at all, and what you as use instead. I'd be genuinely interested. You've got me thinking....

[miriam-e.livejournal.com]

In my reply to Michael, below, I think I hit upon a story idea. I've started enlarging on it, in my usual obsessive fashion -- I think I can kiss goodbye to any chance of completing my programming work before the end of the month. :(

It also occurred to me that there is an entire genre that revolves around happiness and pleasure, often with little else but that in the stories. That genre is utterly reviled and not mentioned in polite company. It is porn. Gonna have to learn more about it. My exposure has been too limited, sadly.

We are some seriously warped creatures. We idolise death, destruction, and all kinds of conflict, even calling it beautiful, and upholding those qualities in our leaders and heros, while we do our damndest to outlaw and eliminate pleasure and happiness for its own sake.

How much better would we be if fear, hate, and violence were considered vile and disgusting, while heros had great sex and leaders helped everybody get maximum access to happy lives.

I guess the '60s counterculture began on that road, but it was cut short when the insane puritans screamed that it unleashed AIDS. Which, of course, was always absurd. AIDS came from the bush meat trade. So if we want to be picky it would be more correct to say capitalism and poverty unleashed AIDS. But it served the crazy puritans well in stampeding everybody with fear. [sigh]