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miriam_eI was talking to a lovely woman a while back. She was smart and gentle and utterly devoted to her dogs. I don't remember how the subject got onto parenting, but she was very firm that a family requires a father and a mother.
I pointed out that there are plenty of bad families that have the traditional family structure, but that many single parent families do really well, also that I've known some gay male couples and lesbian couples who've brought up kids brilliantly. I suggested that it is surely the quality of parenting that is important, and not the gender.
She was adamant that those are not families and can never do the job that a hetero couple can, so can never bring up a child properly. In the end, puzzled, I decided to let it lie as I could sense a dark, xenophobia under her inability to admit to what I've seen out here in the real world.
How sad. Why would an otherwise good person be so utterly closed-minded and dismissive of others like that?
I pointed out that there are plenty of bad families that have the traditional family structure, but that many single parent families do really well, also that I've known some gay male couples and lesbian couples who've brought up kids brilliantly. I suggested that it is surely the quality of parenting that is important, and not the gender.
She was adamant that those are not families and can never do the job that a hetero couple can, so can never bring up a child properly. In the end, puzzled, I decided to let it lie as I could sense a dark, xenophobia under her inability to admit to what I've seen out here in the real world.
How sad. Why would an otherwise good person be so utterly closed-minded and dismissive of others like that?
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Date: 2007-07-17 07:14 am (UTC)Because she isn't a good person. She can play the part of one, but unless you are not only willing to accept people as capable of constant change and growth, but are nurturing to that change and growth, then you're no good at the business of being a human.
Why is she afraid of growth? Because she stopped growing herself.
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Date: 2007-07-17 09:14 am (UTC):)
Sometimes people like her make me quite sad. What is it that compells some people to simply dismiss entire categories of people like that? There is no attempt to understand, no attempt to connect.
How are we going to ever make it through this century in one piece with much of the planet's population feeling that way about the rest of the population? Especially with the madness of religion maintaining its spell over so many... [sigh]